When things of the same kind are hurt, the autumn chirping is also sad.
Four young people from Tianmen Mountain collectively committed suicide by jumping off a cliff, and their suicide makes people feel sad.
Many people think that their relatives will also be very sad and heartbroken, but the reality may not be the same as imagined.
The family members of the man from Hebei who jumped off the cliff said: When the urn comes back, they will not be allowed to enter the house. They will wait at the dug pit, stand there and bury it. Why let him enter the house? There is no need to enter the house. According to local customs, the ashes of unmarried people cannot enter the ancestral tomb.
Liu, a man from Henan who jumped off the cliff, had a father who was half-paralyzed, a grandmother in her 90s who was bedridden, and a 13-year-old child who lived with his ex-wife. The aftermath was handled with the assistance of village officials.
Although the man from Fujian who jumped off the cliff was the only child in the family, he went to Guangdong to work after graduating from junior high school and had not returned to his hometown for three consecutive years.
The girl from Sichuan who jumped off the cliff was the most surprising. Her friends all thought she was cheerful and optimistic, and she usually liked stray cats and dogs. No one could guess the darkness and gloom behind her sunshine.
The farthest distance between people is not the ends of the earth, but the estrangement between hearts. The reason why these four strangers committed suicide together must have been behind-the-scenes instigation and provocation, but it is also closely related to the loneliness and sadness they encountered.
I don’t know if you still remember the boy named Liu Xuezhou. When he found his biological parents with infinite longing, he did not get the love and care he expected, but was abandoned again and his heart was broken. From childhood to adulthood, Liu Xuezhou suffered a lot and suffered a lot, but he did not extinguish the sunshine in his heart. In the end, it was the indifference of his biological parents that defeated him.
No matter how cruel the jungle society is, even if it is bruised and battered by fate, as long as the family, the last harbor, can be anchored, it can give people a peaceful home. Therefore, returning to the family and family warmth is a good medicine for healing wounds. But the storms of the times are also fiercely impacting the stability and harmony of the family.
Recently, extreme events such as jumping from buildings and jumping into rivers have occurred in Tianjin. The school urgently held a parent-teacher meeting to relieve the psychological pressure of students, parents, and teachers. A PPT leaked from the parent-teacher meeting showed that from March 19 to 23, 7 tragedies occurred in the city in 5 days, of which remarried families, divorced parents, living alone, and parents’ verbal abuse accounted for the majority.
Many people don’t understand why children are so fragile now that they eat well and dress well, and can’t withstand setbacks and blows?
From a macro perspective, there are unavoidable social problems such as the gap between rich and poor, class solidification, and no hope of upward mobility. From a micro perspective, there are problems such as family deconstruction, emotional desertification, and psychological loneliness.
Now the whole society’s attention to psychological problems has also been raised to an unprecedented height, and psychological counseling, psychological guidance, and psychological treatment are increasingly entering ordinary life. These methods are conducive to solving individual practical problems, but they cannot change the overall social environment and family environment.
Solving social problems is often not as ideal as expected, and even the vast majority of problems will never disappear. It is great to be able to achieve relative fairness and justice, and to satisfy most people. So what about the remaining problems? They can only be digested by individuals, borne by families, and dissolved by time.
Managing family relationships and strengthening family construction are our only choices to resist risks and protect ourselves.
To put it more bluntly, don’t count on society’s care, you must learn to lick your own wounds.
Of course, the greatest sorrow is the death of the heart. There is another more cruel reality there, which is the cruelty of the original family.
In 2019, a missing person notice went viral online. Wang Yongqiang, a Ph.D. from Peking University, left the United States 20 years ago and did not return to visit his parents even when they were seriously ill.
At first, everyone accused Wang Yongqiang of being an ungrateful person. When they learned the story behind it, everyone couldn’t bear to blame him. The parents’ actions of treating their son as a cash cow completely severed this family relationship.
As always, don’t judge others’ suffering unless you’ve been through it. Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
It must be admitted that people have destiny. What kind of family you are born into determines what kind of destiny you have, and what kind of era you live in determines what kind of destiny you have.
Changing fate against the heavens only exists in myths. When we are powerless and can’t change anything, at least don’t harm others, and try to be kind to yourself.
The sky will always be bright, and it will be bright even without the sun.
After the dark night, may no one cry for long.
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